June 19, 2025

Addiction isn’t an isolated experience—it affects entire families. That was the message at the heart of BrightView’s recent virtual forum, Healthy Families: How to Navigate Addiction Treatment, led by Rhonda Roper, MSW, LCSW, LISW, BrightView Kentucky’s Vice President of Quality Operations. Drawing on over 20 years of experience in behavioral healthcare, Roper delivered a deep and empathetic look at the roles families play in both the challenges and successes of recovery.

 

The Ripple Effect of Addiction on Families“Diagram showing five common family roles during addiction: Hero, Scapegoat, Mascot, Enabler, and Lost Child.”

“Addiction sends a wave through the entire household—whether it’s a parent, partner, or child who’s struggling,” said Roper.

Key family roles that often emerge:

  • The Enabler: Protects the person using, often unintentionally supporting continued substance use
  • The Hero: The fixer or overachiever who tries to compensate for the chaos
  • The Scapegoat: Diverts attention from the addicted person, often by acting out
  • The Mascot: Uses humor to deflect or minimize the seriousness of the issue
  • The Lost Child: Withdraws, avoids conflict, and becomes emotionally distant

Recognizing these dynamics helps families take steps toward healthier patterns.

 

Startling Stats: The Impact on Children“U.S. map showing percentage of children removed from homes due to parental substance use, ranging from 3.6% to 69% by state.”

Between 2015 and 2019:

  • 21 million children lived with a parent who used illicit substances
  • 9.5 million lived with a parent with a substance use disorder (SUD)

And in 2019, 38.9% of children placed in out-of-home care had parental alcohol or drug abuse listed as a removal factor. “Any one of these children is one too many,” Roper emphasized.

Children living in households with addiction may experience:

  • Poor hygiene, nutrition, or supervision
  • Emotional instability, trust issues, and mood swings
  • Academic struggles and inappropriate adult responsibilities

These experiences can lead to Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), which drastically increase the risk of future substance use.

 

Breaking the Cycle: What Families Can DoTable comparing traits of addictive families—such as disorganization and denial—with healthy families that promote structure and support.

Roper shared BrightView’s approach to helping families support recovery:

  • Set boundaries that are firm but compassionate. Example: removing alcohol from the home.
  • Avoid enabling—don’t shield loved ones from consequences meant to prompt change.
  • Ask honest questions like, “What can I do differently for you?”
  • Support recovery plans, including outpatient treatment and relapse prevention strategies.
  • Respect privacy but also protect your home and other family members.

“Boundaries are some of the hardest things to set, but some of the most critical in seeing changed lives.” — BV Staff Member, Kentucky

 

Recovery Isn’t LinearComparison of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs) that affect long-term risk for addiction.

Relapse is common. Roper urged families to:

  • Have a crisis plan in case of relapse
  • Use Narcan and lock up medications
  • Avoid shame—treatment takes time, and setbacks are part of the journey

 

Special Considerations: Spouses and Adult Children

Substance use disorder in a partner or adult child can lead to:

  • Emotional detachment, financial strain, and potential abuse
  • Role confusion and guilt
  • Codependency and enabling behavior out of fear or love

Roper emphasized that addiction is a disease, not a moral failure.

 

Why Caregivers Must Care for Themselves

Comparison of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs) that affect long-term risk for addiction.“The disease might hide the person underneath, but there’s still a person who needs your love and attention. And you can only give that if you’re taking care of yourself.”

Self-care tips for caregivers:

  • Set emotional and financial boundaries
  • Seek your own therapy or peer support
  • Get rest and nourishment—don’t run on empty


Patient Voices: What Helps in Recovery

In a survey of 325 BrightView patients, the top answers to “What helps keep you in recovery?” included:

  • Supportive family
  • Sober communities
  • Accountability and structure

When asked what they wish loved ones had done differently, “I wish they had shown tough love sooner. I wish they hadn’t enabled me like they did.” And the most powerful words they heard, “They believe in me. They know I can do better.”


Final Takeaway

Addiction recovery is a family effort. When loved ones are educated, compassionate, and equipped with boundaries, they can become a life-saving support system.

To watch the full virtual forum, watch here.

If you or someone you know needs help with addiction, visit brightviewhealth.com or call (888) 501-9865 and take the first step today.